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That's Yuko. 00:02:35.390 --> 00:02:42.710 And use the code shift 50 at checkout to get 50% off your first order. 00:02:43.070 --> 00:02:43.790 Do it today. 00:02:51.990 --> 00:02:55.150 Today's story is a little different to some of our previous episodes. 00:02:56.110 --> 00:03:01.020 We generally meet guests post life quick who've got the benefit of 00:03:01.020 --> 00:03:06.180 hindsight, and we learn how that big thing has changed the direction of 00:03:06.220 --> 00:03:11.980 their life the way that they think. But we meet them on stable ground. 00:03:13.300 --> 00:03:16.500 Not everyone is on the other side of an event that has changed the 00:03:16.500 --> 00:03:21.900 way that they see how they fit into the world, and sometimes we 00:03:21.900 --> 00:03:28.300 meet someone that is mid quake. I live in an earthquake. 00:03:30.100 --> 00:03:34.660 Um, I like I say that really positively. Like. Right. 00:03:35.140 --> 00:03:43.300 Like, for those who don't know, I, I have cerebral palsy and I'm, 00:03:43.340 --> 00:03:49.260 I'm a lifelong disabled person. I'm a full time wheelchair user. 00:03:49.740 --> 00:03:54.780 So that in itself, I think can be a lot of work for others when 00:03:54.780 --> 00:04:04.850 they engage with me. Um, but. I've done a lot of work to reach 00:04:04.850 --> 00:04:11.490 a point where my. I think that my disability is a 00:04:11.490 --> 00:04:17.170 huge deal to me, and I think it should be. That's Kaley. 00:04:18.810 --> 00:04:23.610 She has a disability, and she's a major swiftie. 00:04:23.930 --> 00:04:27.530 I love Taylor Swift so much. It's very much a part of my 00:04:27.530 --> 00:04:31.330 personality. Kaley is the only person I know that 00:04:31.370 --> 00:04:40.810 experienced the Eras tour live twice. I did. I died. It was amazing. 00:04:40.930 --> 00:04:46.010 I like, like really, truly like a life changing experience. 00:04:46.050 --> 00:04:52.610 I feel like 62,000 people had a healing experience and like, 00:04:53.010 --> 00:05:00.330 it sounds insane to say that, but, Um, hearing experience when 60,000 00:05:00.330 --> 00:05:09.890 people can say if the patriarchy. That's a powerful moment. I get it. 00:05:10.490 --> 00:05:14.290 Taylor Swift has been the soundtrack to most of our adventures with Zoe. 00:05:14.810 --> 00:05:19.130 Folklore hooked us, and since then we've enjoyed the back catalogue, 00:05:19.130 --> 00:05:23.170 the new albums, and of course, all of Taylor's versions. 00:05:23.810 --> 00:05:29.970 The song that I'm genuinely obsessed with at this moment is, 00:05:30.330 --> 00:05:36.290 um, Who's Afraid of the Old Me? That sounds like, where can I go? 00:05:36.330 --> 00:05:40.410 Take over the world now. Thank you. Listening to Kaylee speak about 00:05:40.410 --> 00:05:43.850 this song. It's more than just lyrics set 00:05:44.090 --> 00:05:47.450 to music. The song is an anthem that she 00:05:47.490 --> 00:05:52.490 identifies with. But who could possibly be afraid 00:05:52.490 --> 00:05:57.920 of Kaylee? You might ask? I'm a very sarcastic human, 00:05:58.760 --> 00:06:02.320 so I'm accidentally sarcastic a lot at the time. 00:06:03.120 --> 00:06:07.040 Also on purpose, I use it like you can use it. 00:06:07.520 --> 00:06:11.720 I really kind of like making people feel uncomfortable. 00:06:11.720 --> 00:06:17.240 Like it's fun because it's really easy to make a nondisabled person 00:06:17.840 --> 00:06:25.120 uncomfortable. It's really easy. I always feel sensitive. So like. 00:06:27.320 --> 00:06:33.880 I find it interesting that we are taught to adjust how we 00:06:33.880 --> 00:06:37.920 speak about ourselves for the comfort of other people, 00:06:39.000 --> 00:06:46.200 and we don't need to. She's right. You know, we shouldn't feel like we 00:06:46.200 --> 00:06:51.160 need to adjust how we speak about ourselves for the comfort of others. 00:06:51.960 --> 00:06:55.150 But it is one of the hardest lessons we had to learn as parents of a 00:06:55.150 --> 00:06:59.710 child with special needs ourselves. Because for years we crafted 00:07:00.550 --> 00:07:05.630 sound bites. These sort of. Understandable chunks of 00:07:05.630 --> 00:07:10.710 information to make our lives palatable for others. 00:07:11.670 --> 00:07:17.310 But when your life becomes a series of unpredictable seismic shifts. 00:07:17.830 --> 00:07:21.230 Who has time for making others feel more comfortable? 00:07:23.550 --> 00:07:27.270 So right off the bat, let's not try and make the life quake that 00:07:27.270 --> 00:07:31.550 Katie lives in more palatable. Let's call it what it is. 00:07:32.150 --> 00:07:36.150 Cerebral palsy. Kayleigh is a life long disabled 00:07:36.150 --> 00:07:41.230 person, a full time wheelchair user. And for Kayleigh. 00:07:41.390 --> 00:07:45.110 Being conscious of the words we use matters a great deal. 00:07:47.310 --> 00:07:52.430 I use disabled person and differently abled. 00:07:53.190 --> 00:07:57.100 Um, I fully believe that everybody has 00:07:57.100 --> 00:08:01.700 the right to choose whatever label they want to use for themselves. 00:08:02.260 --> 00:08:07.220 Um, I think we need to approach it the way that we approach gender 00:08:07.220 --> 00:08:12.460 pronouns. What are your pronouns? Perfectly acceptable to ask people 00:08:12.460 --> 00:08:17.420 that. What's your disability label? I think that's perfectly acceptable. 00:08:18.260 --> 00:08:21.900 I can't speak for Kaylee's parents, but as parents of a special needs 00:08:21.900 --> 00:08:26.220 child ourselves, we've had to deal with many what's wrong with hers? 00:08:26.260 --> 00:08:31.700 And we've even received a shames after sharing Zoe's diagnosis, 00:08:32.340 --> 00:08:35.980 when the fact of the matter is, there's nothing wrong with Zoe. 00:08:36.540 --> 00:08:40.860 She is fully herself, and you can't accidentally 00:08:40.860 --> 00:08:45.100 remind us of her disabilities by acknowledging her differences. 00:08:45.820 --> 00:08:50.300 But you can be mindful of the words you use when doing so. 00:08:51.780 --> 00:08:59.620 I have one older sister and she has a wonderful husband and they have 00:08:59.620 --> 00:09:04.140 three beautiful babies, and I'm the only aunt that that they have. 00:09:04.380 --> 00:09:11.620 So that's fun because they they've grown up with disability 00:09:11.620 --> 00:09:17.140 and it's like, not it's not that big of a deal to them. 00:09:17.140 --> 00:09:22.300 And it's always interesting to watch them. 00:09:23.180 --> 00:09:27.740 And when they were little like, ah, my hands are interesting and 00:09:27.740 --> 00:09:31.820 and not typical. And so they kind of label my 00:09:31.820 --> 00:09:39.500 hands as aunt hands. On hands. If you were here, you would 00:09:39.500 --> 00:09:43.340 understand what Kaylee means by this. Kaylee and I are sitting alone. 00:09:43.420 --> 00:09:46.740 Her straight brown hair is tied back in a ponytail. 00:09:47.820 --> 00:09:51.220 I must say, I'm surprised at how sleek her motorized wheelchair is, 00:09:51.700 --> 00:09:54.010 especially compared to Zoe's manual one. 00:09:54.810 --> 00:09:59.530 Kaylee has this broad smile and her eyes sparkle with a wicked 00:09:59.530 --> 00:10:03.850 sense of humor. And then there are her aunt hands. 00:10:04.650 --> 00:10:08.050 When Kaylee was younger, she tried the prescribed interventions, 00:10:08.050 --> 00:10:11.730 like using splints to change the shape of her hands. 00:10:12.450 --> 00:10:17.610 But by the age of 12, Katie decided she could do more without them. 00:10:18.650 --> 00:10:26.170 So here she is, splint free and able to knit like it's nobody's business. 00:10:30.370 --> 00:10:35.650 But I think what's complicated, and what I think is an interesting 00:10:35.650 --> 00:10:40.210 journey for people who have to figure out what the labels are. 00:10:40.250 --> 00:10:47.810 We label everything, but we do. Disability doesn't need to be 00:10:47.810 --> 00:10:51.880 excluded from that very normal Process. 00:10:52.120 --> 00:10:56.160 We label this as a table so we know that it's a table, 00:10:56.360 --> 00:11:00.520 and so that other people know that we're talking about the same thing. 00:11:00.880 --> 00:11:06.280 So I think it's important that we label things. 00:11:06.800 --> 00:11:13.880 We just need to claim the labels and not not be like we're trying 00:11:13.880 --> 00:11:17.640 to be apologetic about it and to add to them. 00:11:18.160 --> 00:11:28.080 And I think that the a big journey that I've been on is saying I am 00:11:28.080 --> 00:11:36.160 disabled and not I am disabled, but. Kayleigh is disabled, 00:11:36.680 --> 00:11:40.600 and she started the Kaylie campaign at the age of nine to raise funds 00:11:40.600 --> 00:11:45.480 for her own motorized wheelchair. Kayleigh won an International 00:11:45.480 --> 00:11:49.600 Children's Peace Prize in 2011, and she was awarded the Social 00:11:49.600 --> 00:11:53.320 Activism Medal by the Nobel Peace laureate in 2012. 00:11:54.040 --> 00:11:58.480 Today, the Kaylee campaign is a social justice organization that 00:11:58.480 --> 00:12:02.440 serves more than 7000 beneficiaries every year. 00:12:03.720 --> 00:12:09.160 Kaylee is disabled, and she completed a master's in human rights law. 00:12:09.600 --> 00:12:15.000 She's been to the top of Kilimanjaro. Kaylee has completed the comrades, 00:12:15.320 --> 00:12:22.520 published a book, and Kayleigh has seen the eras tour live twice. 00:12:25.440 --> 00:12:33.280 I try to not always be the best in the space. 00:12:35.480 --> 00:12:41.400 But at least I know myself sometimes. I feel like there's so many, 00:12:41.440 --> 00:12:46.640 so many things that people put onto us as disabled people. 00:12:47.240 --> 00:12:51.750 Um, I think that's why it was really hard for me to be like. 00:12:52.190 --> 00:12:57.870 My disability is shit sometimes because that messaging is so, 00:12:59.110 --> 00:13:05.710 so deeply driven by society that we have to be so grateful for 00:13:05.710 --> 00:13:09.510 every opportunity that we get to exist in a space. 00:13:09.950 --> 00:13:14.590 And I can't get mad that you didn't know how mad at me here, 00:13:14.630 --> 00:13:18.390 or that, like, you didn't give me a man because 00:13:18.390 --> 00:13:23.230 you assume that I can't read it, that I can't make a decision, 00:13:23.270 --> 00:13:29.670 or like you are shook when I pay the bill at the restaurant. 00:13:29.670 --> 00:13:33.790 Because how are disabled people earning money? What do you mean? 00:13:33.790 --> 00:13:39.150 Where are you getting this from? The right to choose your 00:13:39.150 --> 00:13:44.670 disability label matters. Being asked the right questions 00:13:45.230 --> 00:13:50.620 matters and being seen as a whole human with access to the 00:13:50.620 --> 00:13:56.660 full range of humanness. The good and the bad matters. 00:13:57.940 --> 00:14:02.980 I like just because you're in a wheelchair doesn't mean you can't 00:14:03.020 --> 00:14:08.460 be an asshole, or like it doesn't mean that you can't be a bigot, 00:14:08.500 --> 00:14:12.500 like, because you are a member of an oppressed group. Like. 00:14:14.620 --> 00:14:21.660 That stuff is like, like invasive. And it can get to anybody. 00:14:22.100 --> 00:14:25.140 And that's what people are not all the same. 00:14:25.500 --> 00:14:31.260 Like, I don't believe that there is any kind of. 00:14:33.380 --> 00:14:39.460 Coherent, um, within the disabled community. 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Oh yes. 00:15:18.380 --> 00:15:21.380 Kayleigh was just saying that she doesn't believe there's any kind 00:15:21.380 --> 00:15:24.460 of coherence within the disabled community in South Africa. 00:15:24.980 --> 00:15:28.460 Coincidentally, the lyrics of that Taylor Swift song Kayleigh 00:15:28.460 --> 00:15:33.700 likes so much say you caged me and then you called me crazy. 00:15:34.300 --> 00:15:40.900 I am what I am because you trained me. So who's afraid of me? 00:15:41.780 --> 00:15:47.060 I think as a lot of non-disabled person, there's a lot that you 00:15:47.610 --> 00:15:52.890 learn accidentally and you internalize accidentally. So. 00:15:52.930 --> 00:15:58.290 It took me a long time. Um, a lot of therapy. 00:15:58.730 --> 00:16:04.090 Um, to my therapist. Works really hard because I'm a 00:16:04.090 --> 00:16:09.530 problem. Um, we're stubborn over here. 00:16:10.410 --> 00:16:15.290 Side note Kaylee tends to refer to herself as the royal we, 00:16:15.690 --> 00:16:20.290 which is perfectly acceptable for a queen to do. 00:16:22.370 --> 00:16:26.930 So it took us a long time to reach a point where I could say, 00:16:27.610 --> 00:16:33.730 like, just say the sentence. I'm not always okay with being a 00:16:33.730 --> 00:16:40.330 disabled person. Right. Because you put out this persona of, 00:16:40.330 --> 00:16:44.810 like, I'm the positive solution, finding a disabled person who's 00:16:44.810 --> 00:16:49.640 trying to not be an issue to somebody like, I want to be in this space. 00:16:49.640 --> 00:16:53.240 I don't want you to be uncomfortable in this space with me. 00:16:53.880 --> 00:16:58.840 Um, so I make it. Not a big deal. It's fine. We'll find a solution. 00:16:59.440 --> 00:17:06.600 Um, sometimes it's shit. And sometimes it's really, really 00:17:06.600 --> 00:17:14.640 hard. And it's okay to say that. And to just say that and to not have 00:17:14.640 --> 00:17:20.960 it be. Sometimes it's really hard. But on the brighter side, like, 00:17:20.960 --> 00:17:23.520 you don't always feel like there's another side. 00:17:24.640 --> 00:17:29.240 Kelly has reminded me that we seem to expect people to turn 00:17:29.240 --> 00:17:34.160 their life quakes into lemonade. It makes us more comfortable if 00:17:34.160 --> 00:17:38.280 we can tell ourselves that it's going to be fine. They'll be fine. 00:17:39.360 --> 00:17:42.440 I would be a multi-millionaire if I had a brand. 00:17:42.440 --> 00:17:47.000 For every time someone responded to Zoe's epilepsy diagnosis by saying 00:17:47.000 --> 00:17:51.080 something they think is optimistic, like Proteas cricketer Jonty 00:17:51.080 --> 00:17:53.880 Rhodes has epilepsy. And look what he did with this life. 00:17:55.240 --> 00:18:02.080 There isn't always a brighter side and you don't get to tell 00:18:02.120 --> 00:18:08.320 me about sad to tell us about the silver linings. 00:18:08.840 --> 00:18:14.400 Instead of dealing with our own discomfort, our own fears and 00:18:14.400 --> 00:18:21.080 meeting us right where we are. I think that that's the 00:18:21.080 --> 00:18:28.400 beautiful thing about about. Living openly with your disability. 00:18:29.240 --> 00:18:36.520 Um, because, like, we're not friends all the time, and I have had to 00:18:36.520 --> 00:18:41.920 find ways of of navigating that, but also making space for it. 00:18:41.920 --> 00:18:50.030 So like, I'm having a hard body So if I can send three emails, 00:18:50.790 --> 00:18:55.390 then awesome. Then awesome. And on those days we celebrate 00:18:55.390 --> 00:18:58.870 what we can do. But on the days when things get 00:18:58.910 --> 00:19:04.950 tough and the walls start to close in on us, we need to ask for help. 00:19:05.510 --> 00:19:11.070 However hard it might be. I'm just like this is easier and 00:19:11.070 --> 00:19:15.670 more efficient if you help me. And so I think in that way, 00:19:15.670 --> 00:19:22.190 we're also kind of indoctrinated into believing that in order to be a 00:19:22.190 --> 00:19:28.510 productive and respectable person in society, we have to do things all 00:19:28.510 --> 00:19:33.270 by ourselves, with no assistance and completely independently. 00:19:33.310 --> 00:19:38.590 We're not designed to be independent. I'm very grateful that I have 00:19:38.990 --> 00:19:45.980 people in my life who have come in and made me, like, 00:19:46.020 --> 00:19:52.580 broken my brain a little bit. Um, I think that's such a gift 00:19:52.780 --> 00:19:56.260 that people give to often. They don't mean to do it. 00:19:56.300 --> 00:20:02.460 They just exist that way. And we need to figure out how to 00:20:02.460 --> 00:20:10.940 receive them better. Um, people are capable of not 00:20:10.940 --> 00:20:17.860 being assholes, like, right. Like people are capable of 00:20:17.860 --> 00:20:21.700 accommodating your needs and also recognizing the weakness of 00:20:21.700 --> 00:20:25.100 your disability without it being the whole conversation. 00:20:25.540 --> 00:20:33.940 People are capable of showing up for you with what you need them to. 00:20:35.140 --> 00:20:46.020 Every day you are experiencing like microaggressions And, um, 00:20:46.380 --> 00:20:50.260 we learned to live with them, and we compartmentalize. 00:20:50.260 --> 00:20:53.900 And we can, like, we can deal with those things. 00:20:53.900 --> 00:20:57.580 And sometimes sometimes we make a bit of a quick. 00:20:57.700 --> 00:21:06.140 But, um, I believe that, like, you don't need places to be safe spaces. 00:21:06.140 --> 00:21:15.060 You need people to be safe spaces. In my experience, it's been far 00:21:15.180 --> 00:21:21.780 easier to be a safe space for someone then we tend to think sometimes we 00:21:21.780 --> 00:21:27.580 can get so caught up in needing to have the right words lined up, or 00:21:28.140 --> 00:21:32.460 worried about not having the answers that the other person might need. 00:21:32.860 --> 00:21:38.220 Not being able to make it better that we get so distracted with 00:21:38.260 --> 00:21:42.140 getting there. Being there right that we never 00:21:42.250 --> 00:21:45.690 get around to actually just showing up for them. 00:21:48.410 --> 00:21:53.890 I have a friend who we like ridiculously, 00:21:53.890 --> 00:21:58.970 decided that I would go stay with him and while the rest for six days. 00:22:01.130 --> 00:22:10.210 He had never, like, fully taken care of me and anytime, I mean even 00:22:10.210 --> 00:22:16.130 when we were together. So he knew. But he'd never been, like, 00:22:16.170 --> 00:22:21.170 responsible for supporting my needs. Um, in that way. 00:22:21.690 --> 00:22:24.570 And they were like, oh, it'll be fun. It'll be fun. 00:22:24.610 --> 00:22:29.930 No, I think we'll figure it out. And, um, I. 00:22:32.010 --> 00:22:35.890 Uh, we did have to be very open and communicate. 00:22:36.050 --> 00:22:41.560 We're ready for that conversation. Um, I was like, you just have to let 00:22:41.560 --> 00:22:45.200 me know when you're overwhelmed. And then we can adjust. 00:22:45.200 --> 00:22:47.880 We can, like, figure it out. We can do different things. 00:22:47.880 --> 00:22:52.880 We can minimize these things. And we're constantly told as disabled 00:22:52.880 --> 00:22:58.080 people to minimize and mask our disabilities and how big of an impact 00:22:58.080 --> 00:23:04.520 they have on whatever we're doing. So I think it was like day three 00:23:04.520 --> 00:23:09.760 or something of the trip. Then something happened and he was 00:23:09.760 --> 00:23:13.760 facing away from me and he was like, Fred, I'm overwhelmed. 00:23:14.200 --> 00:23:18.640 Then he said a thing that broke my back. 00:23:18.640 --> 00:23:22.000 And we've been friends for like over a decade. 00:23:22.120 --> 00:23:27.680 And so he knows all my baggage and complexes. 00:23:28.400 --> 00:23:35.400 So, uh, he said to me, I don't actually want to tell 00:23:35.400 --> 00:23:41.350 you that I'm overwhelmed because I don't fully Really feel that. 00:23:41.510 --> 00:23:46.390 And he also knows that I am a bit of a burden complex, but, 00:23:46.550 --> 00:23:50.510 um, I'm ready for that. You know, I'm ready to be a problem. 00:23:50.550 --> 00:23:55.270 I'm prepared. Um. It's okay. I'm used to being a problem to 00:23:55.270 --> 00:24:00.470 people. It's fine. This is what took me out. He said. 00:24:01.470 --> 00:24:06.350 I also don't want to tell you that because I actually feel quite 00:24:06.390 --> 00:24:14.990 privileged to have you trust me enough to have this experience with 00:24:14.990 --> 00:24:25.270 me. What not? My whole life I have. I have very supportive people. 00:24:25.310 --> 00:24:30.710 I have a phenomenal support network. I do everything that I need to, 00:24:30.710 --> 00:24:35.390 I want to do. Never in my entire life had 00:24:35.390 --> 00:24:43.110 anyone said to me that supporting my 18,000 years in a day is a 00:24:43.110 --> 00:24:52.390 privilege to them. Broke me. I'm worthy of you investing your 00:24:52.390 --> 00:24:56.110 energy in me. I'm not taking it from you. 00:24:56.430 --> 00:25:00.790 You're giving it freely and you want to be here. 00:25:01.150 --> 00:25:08.150 All of that stuff is huge. And all the little things are huge. 00:25:09.390 --> 00:25:14.710 And that is what we need when we live with disabilities. Love. 00:25:15.350 --> 00:25:22.110 Kindness, patience, just like everybody else. 00:25:23.470 --> 00:25:30.830 And people that are safe spaces. When the world is not. I love that. 00:25:30.990 --> 00:25:43.020 I have somewhat unintentionally, um, Created like a, uh, 00:25:43.060 --> 00:25:50.780 a web of activists around myself, um, where they know how I feel about 00:25:50.780 --> 00:25:59.780 things so that when things go down, they can react in a way that aligns 00:25:59.780 --> 00:26:05.100 with how I feel about things. Um, because I don't believe that. 00:26:05.100 --> 00:26:11.620 It's like if you don't have the experience fully, that you don't 00:26:11.620 --> 00:26:17.140 have the right to speak about it. Um, I think that's bullshit. 00:26:17.820 --> 00:26:23.540 And I think that that's very shortsighted and egotistical. 00:26:24.260 --> 00:26:32.340 Like, my disability is mine and nobody else's. Um. That's insane. 00:26:32.700 --> 00:26:36.340 My disability is mine. It lives in my body, but it affects 00:26:36.340 --> 00:26:41.330 every single human in my life. So me being like, I'm sorry. 00:26:41.730 --> 00:26:46.010 You're not allowed to have a reaction to this insane thing 00:26:46.010 --> 00:26:50.250 that's happening because you don't live in a wheelchair every day. 00:26:51.490 --> 00:26:57.130 That's bonkers and nonsense and, like, 00:26:57.170 --> 00:27:06.010 limiting the possibility of advocacy. I hope you will break someone's brain 00:27:06.130 --> 00:27:13.410 with kindness today, with witnessing by bearing with and learn to 00:27:13.410 --> 00:27:20.210 receive people who show up for you. Like Kaley Mycroft has while the 00:27:20.210 --> 00:27:25.250 ground is shaking. 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